I got my ride and height stable...
Here's what I had to do. Im not happy about how i accomplished it but Im happy with the end result. Im also even less happy about the fact that I have $400+ in the suspension and ended up hacking it anyway. For those of you yet to lower your truck, just get spindles and blocks and use your stock springs. It'll save your time and money.
The front sat way too high with the 3" coils and 2" spindles. I then cut 1 coil off each front spring, then it sat too low for my 17s, and they rubbed badly, undriveable. I wound up using my stock springs and cutting 1 coil each off of them, the front is now perfect. IT rides like stock.
The back sat about right, but the was rough because it rested on the bumpstops(I used 3" blocks with 3" leafs). I removed the bumpstops then it banged off the frame mount for the bumpstop. Then I cut the mounts off the frame. This is a killer mod, and a must for a lowered truck. So all was well for a couple of days. The back sat almost 1/2" lower than the front though, after I hauled aload of rocks in the truck, it lowered it too far when it settled in. I also had a bad vibration at about 65-75mph from the driveshaft being out of angle to the rearend.
So yesterday I took out my blocks and cut 1/2" of angle into them. I measured up one side 1/2" and drew a line to the other bottom edge and cut along the line. I put my stock helper spring back in as well. This fixed my driveline vibration and clicking. IT also raised the rear up 1" or so, and it sits just a bit higher than the front now, but maybe after i haul something heavy it will settle in level. Im happy with it now.