My neighbor died...

Diablo · 11-08-2009, 01:08 AM

I don't normally post many things regarding this, but I found out a few hours ago that my neighbor died last night.

I hadn't known him but for about 4 or so years, and we weren't really close or anything. But it really bothers me, not sure how to handle it. His wife is blind and they took care of each other. His daughter has been coming back and forth between where she lives and his house quite a bit these passed 2 years. He started to get worse and worse, he would cut his own grass, weed eat and everything. But within the last 2 years or less that stopped and someone would come and cut it for him. His sister, which I think it a little older than him lives across the street from him. I believe he was probably like 70 ish.

I believe he had skin cancer, and had a few places removed before. About 6 months ago his daughter was telling us that the places that were removed wouldn't stop bleeding and wouldn't clot or heal. Whatever, and that he had to sleep sitting in a chair and was in pain

It's just sad and hopefully the rest of his family can take care of his wife and sister. (also to some who have known situations in the passed, this isn't the bad neighbor.) (too bad tho.) It's sad how the good people always have health problems and the horrible people get by just fine.

s10blaza1 · 11-08-2009, 01:11 AM

Hopefully his family was smart and had him on a good health insurance plan so they don't end up in a nest full of problems now that he's gone. My prayers and condolences to the family

adamwilkes20 · 11-08-2009, 01:11 AM

well look at it this way man, he doesnt have to worry about cancer or pain anymore..it was his time to go and he is in a better place.

90blueS10 · 11-08-2009, 01:14 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by adamwilkes20

well look at it this way man, he doesnt have to worry about cancer or pain anymore..it was his time to go and he is in a better place.

This guy has the right mind-set. Death isnt all about sorrow and lonesomeness. He has no pain. And has the biggest smile on his face you can imagine right now.

lownick · 11-08-2009, 01:18 AM

its never the ones who really deserve it.

roboticsguy · 11-08-2009, 01:26 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo

(also to some who have known situations in the passed, this isn't the bad neighbor.) (too bad tho.) It's sad how the good people always have health problems and the horrible people get by just fine.

When I started reading this post, I was wondering if it was that guy.

What has happened here is very unfortunate. At least he got to live a good many years on this planet. My brother died a year and a half ago at age 28. To be honest, though, I think he's better off where he is now. He had a seizure disorder and he was progressively getting worse as he got older, so he may very well have been spared some really bad days. If your neighbor was in a lot of pain, he may have been spared some really bad days as well.

My condolences to his family. May he rest in peace.

Diablo · 11-08-2009, 01:30 AM

Thanks guys, as I get older the more people that die the less I seem to be able to handle it.

adamwilkes20 · 11-08-2009, 02:08 AM

well being as though you are only 5 now, it is gonna be hell later on in life. Just kidding....

roboticsguy · 11-08-2009, 02:11 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo

Thanks guys, as I get older the more people that die the less I seem to be able to handle it.

Well, I think a large portion of that is the fact that each time people around you die, you lose a chunk of the "I'm invincible" factor. You'll probably notice that it hits closer and closer and closer to home each time. The older you get, the more real it gets.

Quote: Originally Posted by adamwilkes20

well being as though you are only 5 now, it is gonna be hell later on in life. Just kidding....

adamwilkes20 · 11-08-2009, 02:18 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by roboticsguy

Well, I think a large portion of that is the fact that each time people around you die, you lose a chunk of the "I'm invincible" factor. You'll probably notice that it hits closer and closer and closer to home each time. The older you get, the more real it gets.

exactly right, when you are young you dont realize just how precious life really is.

NCarolina910 · 11-08-2009, 02:50 AM

When I first saw the thread title and who wrote it I thought, "didn't he hate his neighbor?" Sorry to hear you aren't free of the crappy one yet. That is a shame how the old man and his wife took care of each other. She's not gonna be doing well without him at all, no matter how bad shape he was in. Real sad.

adamwilkes20 · 11-08-2009, 03:21 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by NCarolina910

When I first saw the thread title and who wrote it I thought, "didn't he hate his neighbor?" Sorry to hear you aren't free of the crappy one yet. That is a shame how the old man and his wife took care of each other. She's not gonna be doing well without him at all, no matter how bad shape he was in. Real sad.

When people are together like that for a LONG time, it isnt too long after one of them passes away, the other soon follows. They cant live without each other and the other one usually just gives up or becomes depressed.

GreatWhite00 · 11-08-2009, 03:27 AM

Sorry to hear.

dngrous_dime · 11-08-2009, 09:52 AM

I was thinking it was the evil neighbor, so my first thought was "How much did you get away with, before the family came in and looted?"

fluX · 11-08-2009, 01:18 PM

That's pretty crazy! My neighbor across the street from me lived in the house with his dad who was sick and bedridden. So the son was basically taking care of his dad but he was a little slow. He used to be a stuntman I guess and was in a couple movies. But long story short; the son had a heart attack and died a couple weeks ago. Everyone thought it was the dad that finally passed but it was the son. Sad stuff...

Rhotpursuit · 11-08-2009, 01:23 PM

Quote: Originally Posted by s10blaza1

Hopefully his family was smart and had him on a good health insurance plan so they don't end up in a nest full of problems now that he's gone. My prayers and condolences to the family

His family is not responsible for his debts...

Diablo · 11-08-2009, 01:31 PM

How would you go about asking his daughter about purchasing the property? Not anytime soon, but when do you think is okay? How do you word it without giving an impression that you are only interested in the property?

We want to purchase it, because my grandparents were thinking about moving closer to us and they'd build a new house there.

Also to keep the evil neighbor from purchasing it, because it'd go down hill very quickly then.

01cherryreds10 · 11-08-2009, 01:35 PM

I'd ask her just as you said in your last two sentences. If you tell her you want to buy it for your grandparents to move closer, I don't think she will say no to that.

sixfeathers · 11-08-2009, 01:56 PM

Quote: Originally Posted by lownick

its never the ones who really deserve it.

AMEN. You are soo right.

Diablo · 11-08-2009, 02:12 PM

Quote: Originally Posted by 01cherryreds10

I'd ask her just as you said in your last two sentences. If you tell her you want to buy it for your grandparents to move closer, I don't think she will say no to that.

It was already discussed a few years ago with my neighbor directly that died, that my grandparents would purchase it if he ever decided to move.

Matt96Dime · 11-08-2009, 02:17 PM

r.i.p

bg's · 11-08-2009, 10:11 PM

That's a tough break..But look a the bright side. We're all
gonna punch the same ticket. I've lost a lot of my family
over the last 10 years and it doesn't get any easier, let me
tell ya. My days are closer to done than not. Not much I
can do about it except run with it.

I just hate to see or read where a person had to go
through a lot of pain and misery before the dark.
It would be so much better if all just went to sleep and
didn't bother to wake up, but that unfortunately is NOT
how the human body works in so many instances..

LiquidFusion · 11-08-2009, 10:15 PM

NCarolina910 · 11-09-2009, 01:49 AM

Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo

It was already discussed a few years ago with my neighbor directly that died, that my grandparents would purchase it if he ever decided to move.

Just give it some time, and when you think it's right, tell the daughter that you and her late father had talked about that and you'd like to continue such a discussion with her.

11-08-2009, 01:08 AM	#1
Diablo All motor... boating ;) Age: 5 Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 10,425 Location: USA User is: OffLine	My neighbor died... I don't normally post many things regarding this, but I found out a few hours ago that my neighbor died last night. I hadn't known him but for about 4 or so years, and we weren't really close or anything. But it really bothers me, not sure how to handle it. His wife is blind and they took care of each other. His daughter has been coming back and forth between where she lives and his house quite a bit these passed 2 years. He started to get worse and worse, he would cut his own grass, weed eat and everything. But within the last 2 years or less that stopped and someone would come and cut it for him. His sister, which I think it a little older than him lives across the street from him. I believe he was probably like 70 ish. I believe he had skin cancer, and had a few places removed before. About 6 months ago his daughter was telling us that the places that were removed wouldn't stop bleeding and wouldn't clot or heal. Whatever, and that he had to sleep sitting in a chair and was in pain It's just sad and hopefully the rest of his family can take care of his wife and sister. (also to some who have known situations in the passed, this isn't the bad neighbor.) (too bad tho.) It's sad how the good people always have health problems and the horrible people get by just fine.
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11-08-2009, 01:11 AM	#2
s10blaza1 Registered User Age: 25 Join Date: Nov 2007 Posts: 507 Location: User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Hopefully his family was smart and had him on a good health insurance plan so they don't end up in a nest full of problems now that he's gone. My prayers and condolences to the family
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11-08-2009, 01:11 AM	#3
adamwilkes20 Registered User Age: 30 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,389 Location: Zephyrhills,FL User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... well look at it this way man, he doesnt have to worry about cancer or pain anymore..it was his time to go and he is in a better place.
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11-08-2009, 01:14 AM	#4
90blueS10 Calico 1st Gen Age: 17 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 3,853 Location: Ottawa, Kansas User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by adamwilkes20 well look at it this way man, he doesnt have to worry about cancer or pain anymore..it was his time to go and he is in a better place. This guy has the right mind-set. Death isnt all about sorrow and lonesomeness. He has no pain. And has the biggest smile on his face you can imagine right now.
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11-08-2009, 01:18 AM	#5
lownick Registered User Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 453 Location: SoCal User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... its never the ones who really deserve it.
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11-08-2009, 01:26 AM	#6
roboticsguy Truckless Member Age: 33 Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 1,737 Location: Seattle, WA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo (also to some who have known situations in the passed, this isn't the bad neighbor.) (too bad tho.) It's sad how the good people always have health problems and the horrible people get by just fine. When I started reading this post, I was wondering if it was that guy. What has happened here is very unfortunate. At least he got to live a good many years on this planet. My brother died a year and a half ago at age 28. To be honest, though, I think he's better off where he is now. He had a seizure disorder and he was progressively getting worse as he got older, so he may very well have been spared some really bad days. If your neighbor was in a lot of pain, he may have been spared some really bad days as well. My condolences to his family. May he rest in peace.
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11-08-2009, 01:30 AM	#7
Diablo All motor... boating ;) Age: 5 Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 10,425 Location: USA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Thanks guys, as I get older the more people that die the less I seem to be able to handle it.
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11-08-2009, 02:08 AM	#8
adamwilkes20 Registered User Age: 30 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,389 Location: Zephyrhills,FL User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... well being as though you are only 5 now, it is gonna be hell later on in life. Just kidding....
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11-08-2009, 02:11 AM	#9
roboticsguy Truckless Member Age: 33 Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 1,737 Location: Seattle, WA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo Thanks guys, as I get older the more people that die the less I seem to be able to handle it. Well, I think a large portion of that is the fact that each time people around you die, you lose a chunk of the "I'm invincible" factor. You'll probably notice that it hits closer and closer and closer to home each time. The older you get, the more real it gets. Quote: Originally Posted by adamwilkes20 well being as though you are only 5 now, it is gonna be hell later on in life. Just kidding.... Last edited by roboticsguy : 11-08-2009 at 02:13 AM.
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11-08-2009, 02:18 AM	#10
adamwilkes20 Registered User Age: 30 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,389 Location: Zephyrhills,FL User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by roboticsguy Well, I think a large portion of that is the fact that each time people around you die, you lose a chunk of the "I'm invincible" factor. You'll probably notice that it hits closer and closer and closer to home each time. The older you get, the more real it gets. exactly right, when you are young you dont realize just how precious life really is.
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11-08-2009, 02:50 AM	#11
NCarolina910 no more S10 Age: 23 Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 17,189 Location: North Carolina User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... When I first saw the thread title and who wrote it I thought, "didn't he hate his neighbor?" Sorry to hear you aren't free of the crappy one yet. That is a shame how the old man and his wife took care of each other. She's not gonna be doing well without him at all, no matter how bad shape he was in. Real sad.
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11-08-2009, 03:21 AM	#12
adamwilkes20 Registered User Age: 30 Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,389 Location: Zephyrhills,FL User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by NCarolina910 When I first saw the thread title and who wrote it I thought, "didn't he hate his neighbor?" Sorry to hear you aren't free of the crappy one yet. That is a shame how the old man and his wife took care of each other. She's not gonna be doing well without him at all, no matter how bad shape he was in. Real sad. When people are together like that for a LONG time, it isnt too long after one of them passes away, the other soon follows. They cant live without each other and the other one usually just gives up or becomes depressed.
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11-08-2009, 03:27 AM	#13
GreatWhite00 I just cummed. Age: 25 Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 17,473 Location: Mantua,OH User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Sorry to hear.
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11-08-2009, 09:52 AM	#14
dngrous_dime Project Classified LIVES! Age: 29 Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 15,190 Location: 49633 User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... I was thinking it was the evil neighbor, so my first thought was "How much did you get away with, before the family came in and looted?"
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11-08-2009, 01:18 PM	#15
fluX fuck off Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 2,712 Location: Chicago, IL User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... That's pretty crazy! My neighbor across the street from me lived in the house with his dad who was sick and bedridden. So the son was basically taking care of his dad but he was a little slow. He used to be a stuntman I guess and was in a couple movies. But long story short; the son had a heart attack and died a couple weeks ago. Everyone thought it was the dad that finally passed but it was the son. Sad stuff...
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11-08-2009, 01:23 PM	#16
Rhotpursuit Ticket Magnet Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 4,284 Location: Spanaway, Wa User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by s10blaza1 Hopefully his family was smart and had him on a good health insurance plan so they don't end up in a nest full of problems now that he's gone. My prayers and condolences to the family His family is not responsible for his debts...
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11-08-2009, 01:31 PM	#17
Diablo All motor... boating ;) Age: 5 Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 10,425 Location: USA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... How would you go about asking his daughter about purchasing the property? Not anytime soon, but when do you think is okay? How do you word it without giving an impression that you are only interested in the property? We want to purchase it, because my grandparents were thinking about moving closer to us and they'd build a new house there. Also to keep the evil neighbor from purchasing it, because it'd go down hill very quickly then.
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11-08-2009, 01:35 PM	#18
01cherryreds10 Former S10 enthusiast Age: 19 Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 5,635 Location: Illinois User is: Online	Re: My neighbor died... I'd ask her just as you said in your last two sentences. If you tell her you want to buy it for your grandparents to move closer, I don't think she will say no to that.
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11-08-2009, 01:56 PM	#19
sixfeathers Registered User Age: 37 Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 169 Location: User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by lownick its never the ones who really deserve it. AMEN. You are soo right.
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11-08-2009, 02:12 PM	#20
Diablo All motor... boating ;) Age: 5 Join Date: Aug 2002 Posts: 10,425 Location: USA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by 01cherryreds10 I'd ask her just as you said in your last two sentences. If you tell her you want to buy it for your grandparents to move closer, I don't think she will say no to that. It was already discussed a few years ago with my neighbor directly that died, that my grandparents would purchase it if he ever decided to move.
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11-08-2009, 02:17 PM	#21
Matt96Dime Just hanging out Age: 23 Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 869 Location: speedway,Ind User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... r.i.p
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11-08-2009, 10:11 PM	#22
bg's crap Join Date: Jun 2002 Posts: 8,096 Location: Who cares.. User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... That's a tough break..But look a the bright side. We're all gonna punch the same ticket. I've lost a lot of my family over the last 10 years and it doesn't get any easier, let me tell ya. My days are closer to done than not. Not much I can do about it except run with it. I just hate to see or read where a person had to go through a lot of pain and misery before the dark. It would be so much better if all just went to sleep and didn't bother to wake up, but that unfortunately is NOT how the human body works in so many instances..
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11-08-2009, 10:15 PM	#23
LiquidFusion Toasty! Age: 25 Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 13,963 Location: Fresno, CA User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Rip
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11-09-2009, 01:49 AM	#24
NCarolina910 no more S10 Age: 23 Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 17,189 Location: North Carolina User is: OffLine	Re: My neighbor died... Quote: Originally Posted by Diablo It was already discussed a few years ago with my neighbor directly that died, that my grandparents would purchase it if he ever decided to move. Just give it some time, and when you think it's right, tell the daughter that you and her late father had talked about that and you'd like to continue such a discussion with her.
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