Ex-Girlfriend Problems...

[Silent Warrior]

Ok. My ex-gf and i split up a few weeks ago cause it just wasnt working out. she actually broke up with me. we dated for 4 years off and on and living together for 3 years. we both agreed on it not working out. since she has no where to move to i let her stay here in my house untill she gets money saved up and gets to move out. she is also sleeping in the bedroom and im sleeping in the spare room on a air mattress.

since the breakup, she has treated me like in nonexistent. she wont talk to me and always ignores me. she is always going out and either comes home late or doesnt come home at all. i keep telling her to get out and told her that she has a certain date to move or im putting her shit out the door. she laughed at me and said she is not going anywhere and said for me to stop threatening her to kick her out.

just the other day, she texted me out of the blue and said sorry for treating you bad and ignoring you and stuff. im like ok.. so i get home from work thinking everything is gonna go smooth. she gets home and starts shit with me. telling me she feels uncomfortable with me being here and that she has no privacy cause im here. then we had a huge argument. im the one that pays all the bills and rent.

for some reason i still love her and care for her dearly. but she is driving me nuts. i want to move on with my life and be happy but i cant cause she is here. she says she has nowhere to go to move. what the hell should i do?

[01cherryreds10]

Kick her out. I have a feeling you won't regret it.

[bill 4.3l 5spd]

IMO
mistake 1 you let her keep living there

mistake 2 YOU are sleeping on an airmatress in a spare room of an apt YOU pay for

mistake 3 you didint post pics

[-mox-]

Wasn't there a very similar topic to this last year by another user?

[sdime98]

kick her ****ing ass out, fast and swiftly.

doesn't feel comfortable with you being there? wtf. it's YOUR place.

[loudnlownoma]

Quote: Originally Posted by sdime98

kick her ****ing ass out, fast and swiftly.

doesn't feel comfortable with you being there? wtf. it's YOUR place.

^ This. You aren't going to be able to move on or deal with things with her being right there in your face the whole time, and seeing how great she is making it to be that she is doing. It's your place, so she needs to go. It's her own fault for not having anything to live on or anywhere to go, and you have given her plenty of time already to get her shit together so she can have somewhere to go

[BlkBlzr01]

lol, at you asking us what to do when it's obvious. kick her ass to the curb. you pay for shit and she free loads so she has no say IMHO.

[556mm]

she treats you like shit in your own place. kick her ass to the curb.

[Silent Warrior]

ive tried kicking her out. she wont go! still says she has nowhere to go. it sucks cause i also have a big heart.

[rcsoundn1]

did this. Kicker her out. when she laughed, she woke up to her shit packed in a truck. yea i did the work, but she was gone that day. i dropped her off at her moms and laughed as i left.

[no_pulse]

Well judging from what you posted, it seems your ex wants her cake and eat it too. She doesn't want to be with you, but she wants to live there because you're paying all the bills. I mean, why would she want to leave, she gets free rent etc. The fact that she told you "she is not going anywhere" is a good indication. You realize she is now just using you right?

Like sdime98 stated, its you're f'ing place, if she doesn't feel "comfortable", she can get the f'k out! She should be sleeping in the spare room on the mattress, not YOU! If she doesn't like it, tough, YOU pay the bills and its YOUR place! I don't by the "she doesn't have anywhere to go" bit! I'm sure she has friends that can help her out, or maybe the guy she is probably boning behind your back.

I kind of went through a similar thing. My ex was a manipulative bitch! I ended up going to jail because of the bitch! It was hard to leave my ex because she had the biggest (o) (o) i've ever seen! But in retrospect, I wish I would have just walked away after the breakup and saved myself a trip to jail. Some women are evil and can turn on you in a drop of the hat. Seems the warning signs are there. Kick her out before something bad happens.

[sdime98]

big heart..psh..get your balls back, apparently she still has a good grip on em.

**** that, no way in hell. is her shit out by the side of the road yet?

[556mm]

there's a difference between having a big heart and getting walked all over. if you let her stay who knows what else she'll try to do. ex: bring another dude over.

[98noma97]

i would of kicked her out on day 1

[Silent Warrior]

iam not a violent person at all nor do i get very angry. but she gets under my skin alot. i have told myself no to do any physical harm to her cause i dont want to goto jail. and i really dont want the cops involved either.

[bygbyrd]

If she is not coming home every night she is obviously staying somewhere. Kick the whore out and go get your dick wet

[lee-mill]

ahhaahaha i laughed my nuts off when you said that she was in the bedroom on the bed and you were in the spare on a air mattress. the day i live with a girl and we break up is the day she is out, i dont play mister nice guy shit. if youre not dating her anymore then i dont know why she is there, even if you have a big heart and she has no where to go, kick her out. i guarentee if she stays that within the next month youre going to come home to some other guy that is beating it up, kick her out before shit hits the fan more

[~02DIME~]

I say let her catch you banning a chick in her bed, trust me she'll leave!

[lee-mill]

Quote: Originally Posted by ~02DIME~

I say let her catch you banning a chick in YOUR bed, trust me she'll leave!

fixed

[Zapnoma]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

Ok. My ex-gf and i split up a few weeks ago cause it just wasnt working out. she actually broke up with me. we dated for 4 years off and on and living together for 3 years. we both agreed on it not working out. since she has no where to move to i let her stay here in my house untill she gets money saved up and gets to move out.

No, really...

[jherrell]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

ive tried kicking her out. she wont go! still says she has nowhere to go. it sucks cause i also have a big heart.

she broke it off with you... chances are she's getting d1ck somewhere else... remember she broke it off with you, she should have had a plan in place then... not your problem.

Your big heart will get you into trouble if you don't do the deed now. Get her ass out of there.

Is the place in your name, hers, or both (hopefully only yours)? Is her name on any of the utility bills? If so, get those switched solely to your name.

If the place is in your name, have the landlord change the locks when she is out. Put her shit at the door, don't answer said door when she gets there. Don't answer the phone or nothing.

Get out now while you still have some dignity left.

[~02DIME~]

Quote: Originally Posted by lee-mill

fixed

true true, it is his bed

[Zapnoma]

Quote: Originally Posted by 98noma97

i would of kicked her out as soon as we broke up

Fixt. No longer dating? No longer living there.

[lee-mill]

Quote: Originally Posted by ~02DIME~

true true, it is his bed

lol

[no_pulse]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

iam not a violent person at all nor do i get very angry. but she gets under my skin alot. i have told myself no to do any physical harm to her cause i dont want to goto jail. and i really dont want the cops involved either.

I didn't threaten my ex or physically assault her. Long story short, found out she cheated on me, so i returned the favor by cheating on her with a girl she hated in the chat room. She found out and was so pissed off, next thing I know, cops showed up to my house and I was arrested for "criminal harassment"! She lied to the cops and told them I was following her and bugging her etc. Her "witness" was the guy she was f*cking behind my back. Knowing that she used sex as a weapon, she probably told her new boy toy to collaborate her story or no more sex. And since its a woman's world, I didn't even get to explain my side of the story. They slapped on the cuffs and I went to jail for the night.

Like I said, she can very well turn the tide and call the cops on you and say your bugging her etc. I had one cop tell me while he went to the door of this one house for a domestic abuse call, he saw the wife slamming her against the wall to make it look like her husband hit her. Some women are evil. You never think shit will happen to you until it does.

She knows you have a heart and thats why she is stomping all over it. She knows you won't do anything about it and that is why she is walking all over you. I've been there! Just pack her stuff up and tell her to leave. If not, tell her you will call the cops and have her physically removed by them!

[DFitty]

let her catch you in your bed..with her best friend...

[S-10MASTER]

Did you kick this bitch out yet?

[96blazer]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

ive tried kicking her out. she wont go! still says she has nowhere to go. it sucks cause i also have a big heart.

You're not even getting any courtesy blowjobs or quickie morning fvcks either huh?

[s10pimpin209]

classic case scenario. how old is this women now 26-29? she knows how to push guys buttons you aren't a toy bro. your never gonna regain your life until she is gone. heres what i would do go to microsoft word , type up a nice letter, sum up the terms ( 3 days remaining whatever) post it on her ... i mean your door ask her to sign it. she does kool, she doesnt alright you have your reciepts, copy of the letter, call the authority's they are more than happy to wait while she packs up her shit.

dont get me wrong im not heartless, i just know when to much is to much. and in your case that was: that first night she didnt come back to her "temporary place to stay".

HANDLE IT!

[Silent Warrior]

shes also told me that if i try to kick her out she will call the cops. cause she has mail coming here...

[~02DIME~]

good for her, is she on the lease agreement? if not and you pay the bills its means shit all. Long as you have the proof you pay it all

[Silent Warrior]

everything is in my name... and she is not on the lease.

[s10pimpin209]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

shes also told me that if i try to kick her out she will call the cops. cause she has mail coming here...

let her call the cops be outside waiting .you have your proof of everything. shit print out his entire thread if you have to .

well let her use your computer to get her address changed. you must remember she has no say there as long things are under your name. no kids involved, no cars , estate.

i mean unless your riding it out to see if you can save the relationship...

[s10pimpin209]

you gotta remember we live i one big court room he/she with the most evidence wins the case.

[loudnlownoma]

She can have her mail going anywhere, that doesn't mean anything. If she isn't on a lease or anything, and the utilities and such are in your name only, she has no rights and can be kicked out anytime.

[~02DIME~]

Then she has no grounds, she is living in YOUR place, boot the bitch, its time for her to go.

I had a kinda similar thing with an ex. She had my Cavalier and wouldn't give it back after we broke up so instead of reporting it stolen, A couple weeks after, she drove an hour north of our town. overnight I drove up with a buddy and took the car leaving a note on the door saying thanks for my car back.

[Daveman2]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

everything is in my name... and she is not on the lease.

The picture has to be this large for him to get the proper message:




/\She needs this/\

She's gonna manipulate you all day, she doesn't give a shit about you, and HOLY HELL how did you not have the balls to make her sleep on the air mattress? it's YOUR house, she's 'eventually' moving out, and by that phrase YOU should mean sometime in the next 24 hours, or your balls will continue to shrink.

[jherrell]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

shes also told me that if i try to kick her out she will call the cops. cause she has mail coming here...

you have a video camera? Start recording everything as you and a friend move her shit out. Record when she gets back, and whatever you do, keep your cool, let her act crazy and have it on video... she's playing you right now, and she will try to use the he hit me plea

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

everything is in my name... and she is not on the lease.

AND BOOT HER...

[sdime98]

Quote: Originally Posted by Daveman2

and by that phrase YOU should mean sometime in the next 24 hours, or your balls will continue to shrink.

what balls?

[95blus10]

well if It's your apt and you pay for everything and her name isn't on anything then id have to say grow some testicle's and kick her ass to the curb.

[bitchin sonoma]

you should show her your boot!!!!!kick her out or if she wants to stay to give it up!!!and get some other holes around.

[cruisinlows10]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

everything is in my name... and she is not on the lease.

Not on the lease = her shit on the curb the first day she goes out and stays gone all day. New locks on the house for you if you are smart. I find it hard to believe she has NO place to go. Parents, friends, etc.

[cruisinlows10]

Quote: Originally Posted by jherrell

you have a video camera? Start recording everything as you and a friend move her shit out. Record when she gets back, and whatever you do, keep your cool, let her act crazy and have it on video... she's playing you right now, and she will try to use the he hit me plea



AND BOOT HER...

[Zapnoma]

Quote: Originally Posted by cruisinlows10

Not on the lease = her shit on the curb the first day she goes out and stays gone all day. New locks on the house for you if you are smart. I don't give a shit that she has NO place to go. Parents, friends, etc.

Fixt.

[no_pulse]

Quote: Originally Posted by Silent Warrior

shes also told me that if i try to kick her out she will call the cops. cause she has mail coming here...

Again another big ass warning sign! Take it from someone with experience, kick her out before she decides to do something f'd up!

Like everyone has stated, its your place! Let her call the cops, they can't kick you out of your own place! If it were me, i would call the cops myself/ Tell them the situation that you broke up, its your apartment, you've asked her to leave and she won't leave!

For all you know, the next time you're at work or hanging out with a friend, she could take everything you have while you're out!

If she doesn't come home certain nights, obviously she has a place to crash. So tell her that!

I know its hard since you have feelings but you have to realize she is just using you now because she knows you still have feelings. She is using that against you! Its time for her to go!

[~02DIME~]

Quote: Originally Posted by no_pulse

Like everyone has stated, its your place! Let her call the cops, they can't kick you out of your own place! If it were me, i would call the cops myself/ Tell them the situation that you broke up, its your apartment, you've asked her to leave and she won't leave!

good advice, call them b4 she decides to

[dimedragin22s]

pee in her butt before she shits in your cornflakes

[MikawN]

Take a day off work, pack her shit up, and change the door locks.

She is using you cause she knows she can get away with it.

[roboticsguy]

I can't say anything that hasn't already been said. Get rid of the bitch. Now. She knows she can manipulate you into doing whatever she wants.

Some thoughts on how to get rid of her:

1. If she's not on the lease, is listed as an occupant of the apartment? If she's neither on the lease nor listed as an occupant, it's time for her to go. She has absolutely no legal right to be there, so kick her ass to the curb.

2. Find out where the guy lives that she's f***ing. Get a buddy (or two, or make it a party and get three), load up her shit and dump it off at ol' boy's house. But do this: have the locks changed while she's gone so she can't get back in. Drop the shit off at his doorstep. Make DAMN sure, though, when you pack up/move her shit that you have at least one of your buddies around at ALL times. You may need a witness. Once this is done, guess what? Her ass is officially kicked to the curb.

3. Document EVERYTHING. The bitch sounds like a looney toon and if you're not careful, you'll end up in a courtroom and supporting her ass for years to come. Write down the date/time of every confrontation you guys have and the details about it (what initiated it, who started it, etc..). This will come in very handy if/when you need to get a restraining order against her. Establishing a behavior pattern will help you in the not-so-distant future so you can kick her ass to the curb.

4. She broke up with you. It doesn't matter what happened that led up to this. It was her decision to end things. With that decision comes responsibility on her part to take care of herself. That is no longer (and for that matter, it should have NEVER been) your responsibility to care and provide for her (roof over her head, food on the table, etc..) She's never going to save up the cash to move, so YOU need to be the catalyst to...

...KICK HER ASS TO THE CURB.

You may have a big heart, and that's great. SHE doesn't deserve it, and she's going to use you as long as she possibly can. She doesn't have privacy? Too f***ing bad. Move the f*** out! You may still love her, and so be it. Sometimes you have to love someone enough to let them go. It's time for self-preservation.

I highly suggest you coordinate packing her shit up and delivering it to her new f***buddy's place/friend's place/parents' place/etc with getting the apartment locks changed. She has mail going there? (to the cop) "Yes sir, she initially asked to stay with me temporarily until she could get her own place. I allowed her to do this on a temporary basis." Once again, she's not on the lease, so she has no legal right to stay there.

You're going to be in this personal hell for the forseeable future unless you take steps to end it, and end it NOW.

[heeter_33]

do her a favour and call the cops for her, then when they get there tell them whats going on and how she wont leave. she's pretty much trespassing if her names not on anything.